February 6, 2006
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On Love, Part 3
By J. Krishnamurti
Obviously there is no love when there is no real respect, when you don’t respect another, whether he is your servant or your friend. Have you not noticed that you are not respectful, kindly, generous to your servants, to people who are so-called ‘below’ you? You have respect for those above, for your boss, for the millionaire, for the man with the large house and a title, for the man who can give you a better position, a better job, from whom you can get something. But you kick those below you, you have a special language for them. Therefore where there is no respect, there is no love. We are neither respectful nor merciful nor generous. We are possessive, full of sentiment and emotion which can be turned either way: to kill, to butcher, or to unify over some foolish, ignorant intention. So how can there be love? You can only know love when all these things have stopped, come to and end, only when you don’t possess, when you are not merely emotional with devotion to an object. Obviously there is no love when there is no respect. You may say that you have respect, but your respect is for the superior, it is merely the respect that comes from wanting something, the respect of fear. If you really felt respect, you would be respectful to the lowest as well as the so-called highest; since you haven’t that there is no love.
In what ways you can do to show respect for your partner, kids, friends, and others?
Comments (14)
Yes. It is difficult though.
It’s hard when you’re not respected, or the person you love doesn’t show you respect. And how many times have I heard people getting into a violent altercation because, “He disrespected me!”
I have to remember in Heaven what is first will be last and what is last will be first.
I also try to remind myself of what Mother Theresa used to do. She looked upon everyone and saw Jesus. She treated everyone with the respect she would treat Jesus. that’s tough, but it’s certainly gives me something to strive for.
It’s all about attitude. It’s all about understanding that when it comes down to it, on the most important level, equality trumps position. It’s all about what’s in your heart and who put it there.
be myself is the only way.
i dont have respect for the millionare. Often i fight authority figures if they arent respectable. It doesnt have to do with their job it has to do with their character. The reason i never feel love for women here is because theyre so immature i cant possibly respect them.
love will conquers all…
Show respect with Compasion. To feel passion with some one, to enter sympathetically into their sorrow & pain.
A little Empathy never fails. When my partner says she has a headache, rub her neck and head, and give her space. When your child comes off the wall, sit and talk and try to see their point.Walk in their shoes, you were there once, or will soon be.
Perhaps allow people voice their opinion, listen without prejudgement is one way to show respect. Thanks for stopping by my xanga. Have a good night:)
…… to listen…………… ^_^
i agree with you, there is no love if theres no respect..
especial if the other person is out having an affair….
or being abusive, and of coarse lying too…
so i show the ones i love and care for by being
honest, and loyal, ……..have a good night…………phuong
ryc: I’m thinking of a xanga get together Dim Sum on Sunday in TX… hehehe
listen and not always try and have an answer or try to fix the problem.. this makes my family crazy when I think I can “fix” the problem.. sometimes they just need me to shut up and listen.
First and foremost I can show respect to the ones I love by listening to them completly. Giving them my 100% attention, this allows me to feel empathy, sympathy or compassion or to share their successes.
Lenn
Giving attention..to others around us and to those whom we love,..hmmmn!