June 30, 2006

  • I complaint a lot when I was a child.  I always find ways to show my ungratefulness.  My mom always finds ways to remind me to be thankful for life.  She’d take me to the market often.  The market in Vietnam is a lot different than the market here in the US.  The market we went to was full of homeless, handicaps, leprosies, and other derelicts.  I saw many bizarre creatures and things  including a man with no legs and no hands.  My first question was “how did he get there?”  Someone once said I cry when I have no shoes until I saw a man with no legs.  At every market visit, mom would buy birds and let them go.  I always wanted to keep them.  Mom believed that releasing the birds would help speed up the process of the communists releasing dad from the concentration camp.   May be this was the reason why dad got out alive only after 8 years compare to his friends who stayed a lot longer and some couldn’t make it out.  The market visits were always life changing experience for me.  I am reminded to be thankful to existence and that being alive and healthy is a wonderful gift. 


       


    As an adult, I don’t have much tolerance for people who always find something to complain about.  Some get offended by almost everything.  I also don’t have tolerance for chronic grumpy people.  But I can empathize.  There are many reasons why people behave the way they behave.  One reason is the cultural.  Most of us were conditioned at a young age to not accept ourselves the way we are.  Our isness is never praised.  Being a nobody is not accepted.  What is praised is our future of becoming someone respectable, powerful, rich, intellectual, and famous.  It creates an idea “I am not enough the way I am, something is missing.  I have to be someone else.  I have to be somewhere else.  I have to be more dominant, more respected, well known.  I have to have more money, more degrees, more initials behind my name.”  Sometimes these expectations are not met and we create lots of negative feelings that cause unhappiness not only in us, but in our circle of influence.


     


    Have a fabulous weekend everyone!   


     

Comments (14)

  • have a wonderful holiday weekend!

  • I know one chronically grumpy person you’re tolerant of…

  • Great entry! I love this one. Happy Weekend, Anh. =)

  • Great Post.

    Have a good Holiday

  • Have a good 4th weekend chi..

  • Very insightful entry. Sometimes a parent see more potential in his/her child yet the child does not try hard enough to develop that talent or potential. Criticism sometimes is used as a tool to steer the child to the direction that the parent thinks it can be useful to the child. Somtimes the parent is right. Sometimes not. Not unsually, criticism is seen as not allowing the child to accept his/her being. However, sometimes by refusing the child to settle in his/her position can help the child reach his/her true potential.

    In my rambling I guess I am trying to say there is another perspective of how we are that we may not know.

  • I haven’t got much tolerance for those who whine either but I try to love them anyway.  Have a safe and happy Fourth Of July. Judi

  • Good post girl, thanks for shearing. I think Bloom where your planted solves a lot of problems. Have a great weekend/

  • Thank you. I sure enjoyed this personal post. That is the first time I knew that your father was in a concentration camp.

    Lenn

  • Hey Trimtab I love you and you are the most awesome Christian I know. Judi

  • Great entry as usual, Judi

  • This was a wonderful post, Trimtab!! It was personal, and gave me a glimpse into the real you–but too, your story about your mom releasing the birds? I will have that vision in my mind, for always.

    BEAUTIFUL. Really, truly, beautiful.

    Thank you for sharing this, and thank you, for inviting us to be a little more insightful.

  • have a great weekend…..

  • Great entry! :)

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